Grounding in Earth Time: Living Beyond the Illusion
Self help
Effie
3/18/20253 min read


For as long as I can remember, Iâve been living on a different timeline.
I was always late, always misjudging how long things took. Time seemed to slip through my fingersâsometimes stretching endlessly, sometimes disappearing in a blink. I thought maybe I was chasing adrenaline, thriving under pressure, or just bad at time management, label it as adhd and call it a day
But none of those explanations fully resonated with me, thereâs something missing and I felt like I was living in a different dimension than everyone else.
People would get frustrated when I said, âJust a couple more minutes,â because to them, those minutes stretched too long. To me, they passed in an instant. I couldnât understand why they were so impatient, and they couldnât understand why I seemed so unaware of time passing. Deep down, I knew something was offâI could feel the disconnect between my internal timeline and the one the rest of the world seemed to follow. But I never knew just how vast that gap was until I started measuring it.
I started tracking my time using an app (Toggl track). I was just curious. I wanted to see, down to the second, how long I actually spent on each part of my day.
What I found was very interesting
Living in an Illusion of Time
I had always believed that ironing my bedsheets was a time-consuming task. In my mind, it felt like an hour-long commitment, or âtakes foreverââsomething I had to make space for, something I dreaded.
But when I timed it? Fifteen minutes.
Not only thatâit was soothing. I actually enjoyed it. I even felt guilty, thinking I had âwastedâ so much time on it⊠only to realize that âforeverâ is not that long
Then there was taking a bath. I thought I had spent 30 minutes, maybe an hour. In reality? Two hours had passed.
Getting ready? I always thought I could be out the door in 5 to 10 minutes. The tracker said 35 minutes.
Even after seeing the real numbers, my body still felt the old time distortions. My mind still believed in the illusion.
And thatâs when I realized: I have never truly lived in real time.
Time Isnât What We Think It Is
We assume we know how long things take, but do we?
- The tasks we dread stretch endlessly in our minds, even though theyâre quick.
- The things we love seem fleeting, even when they consume hours.
- The "fast" routines we breeze through? Theyâre often much longer than we realize.
I thought I was making conscious choices about my time, but in reality, I had been moving through a distorted perceptionâone where time wasnât solid, but fluid.
And if my sense of time was so off in small daily tasks⊠what about my whole life?
Am I Really Living the Life I Think I Am?
I always believed I spent most of my time on my business. That I was busy, focused, dedicated. But if my perception of time was this warped, how could I trust that belief?
What if I wasnât actually spending as much time working as I thought?
What if I was losing hours to distractions, to unconscious habits, to invisible patterns I wasnât aware of?
What if my real lifeâthe one my body was livingâwas completely different from the one my mind thought I was living?
Landing on Earth Time
Time has always been an illusion, shifting based on emotion, resistance, and desire. But for the first time, I feel like Iâve landed in reality.
For the first time, I feel grounded in Earth time.
Not the timeline in my head. Not the endless stretch of "too long" or the fleeting blink of "too short." But the real, tangible, measurable now.
Maybe time management was never about squeezing more into the day.
Maybe it was about learning to see time as it truly isâwithout fear, without distortion, without illusion.
And maybe being present isnât about mindfulness exercises or meditative stillness.
Maybe being present is simply learning to exist in real time.
Iâm finally here. Iâve landed.